5 Easy Steps to Sustaining Positive Energy Throughout Your Day

By Stephen DeMent

For some time now I decided that when I wake up in bed I wanted to take a deep breath to ground myself once I awoke.  This immediately starts my day off in a mindful state that brings me into the present moment.  This has been huge for me.

Recently, I found another tip to add to my morning breath that has produced incredible results.  While traveling in northern Thailand and participating in a one-week-long mediation practice, my gracious instructor, Lydia, suggested starting the day while still in bed with something to be grateful for.  I do this now and also try to use my grateful thought as a mantra for the day.  There are so many things to be grateful for and when I acknowledge them regardless of the time of day it puts me in a great mood, but when I do that in the morning it not only does the same thing but it also sets a happy tone for the day that carries over into the afternoon and beyond.

We all know that at any given time in the day we can be faced with challenges that can compromise our mood.  For myself, my "monkey mind" can get going and thinking of things in the past or the future and just try to ramble on.  Being aware of when this is happening and taking a breath or revisiting my daily mantra helps get me back on track.

Yesterday I decided that I am grateful for the emotion that we call love.  Today I am grateful once again for all of my friends and family.  So thank you all for being a friend (even if I haven't met you yet).

One top of what I just discussed, I have added a couple more ideas that may help you stay positive on a daily basis:

1.  While still laying down once you wake up in the morning, take a nice deep breath to ground yourself in the present moment. You're alive and have another day to live on the gorgeous planet.  Rejoice.

2.  Choose something for the day that you are grateful for.  There are countless reasons to be grateful everyday.  Choose one of them.

3.  Do a very short workout right after you get out of bed.    Usually I will do some push-ups and sit-ups right almost immediately when I get out of bed.  Even a couple of each will you get moving and feeling great. After doing this for not even a month, I saw tremendous physical results, improved posture and simply felt great.  Find out what works for you.

4.  Eat a healthy breakfast.  Or at least a semi-healthy breakfast.  Adding some herbs, vegetable or fruit to whatever you normally eat can make you feel better immediately and can be the start of the new healthy-eating you.

5.  Be aware.  Now that you are doing a list of great things to keep you in a great mood throughout your day you should be feeling good.  That being said, distractions will arise daily.  When this happens, come back to your breath and acknowledge what it is that you are so grateful for and you can find that positive attitude once again.

Smile at Who You Have Become

Sup y'all!

If you're anything like me you have been working on your practice of mindfulness for some time now and you are making great progress.  And if you're anything like me you don't always give yourself the credit you deserve for the progress you have made.  However, those moments of clarity that we find are the fruits of our desires and the results of the practice we have engaged in.  Even though we are searching for continual growth, don't forget to deeply appreciate those moments that you do find that peace and don't forget to appreciate the person that you have become today.  Those moments of mindfulness are exactly what you have been looking for!  That is where the gold is.  Smile wide in those moments. You have found it and you deserve it.

Coming from times where it seemed that something other than my true self was in control, it seems that I have made great progress as I reflect a little and I might not always notice that.  At some point in my journey, there was a time when a force of necessary natural healing was sparked and the concentration of energy on my mind reduced dramatically and the concentration of energy was directed more towards other deeper areas in my body and existence.  To even have that happen is a very fortunate thing as not everyone is so lucky. Almost certainly, you are in that same boat and that is awesome!  Let those moments of clarity soak in and let the perpetual new person that you are constantly becoming to stretch far and wide and reach new heights.  The fact that that is even happening is HUGE and there is not a time where that ever needs to stop.

I suppose this topic came to me as I travel through Southeast Asia and at some points have actually been really busy bouncing around to different countries and neglecting my meditation practice at some points (except for my mediation session in Malaysia where I couldn't stop smiling at how awesome the moment was!).  So maybe I was a little hard on myself for not engaging more, but that was quickly replaced with some quite time--although brief--yesterday.  Well, now I just need to set aside the time to more often engage today as well.  So after this post I will take off and find a quite place to breathe.  Problem solved!

I guess that I should very grateful to have made it to the point that I need to carve out that space for myself and for my practice.  I suppose that is what I have been looking for all along and it only keeps getting better.  If there is something that I want to do, I just need to do it.  Simple.  The same applies for you.  Just do not forget to appreciate who you have become and those peaceful moments you find because that is what you have been looking for.

So, now go do something you love to do and keep doing it more and more, whatever it may be.

Smile more. Laugh more. Sing more. Dance more. Run more. Meditate more. Love more. Climb a mountain and SCREAM.

Good day to all!

The Not-So-Obvious Reason why you Stare at the Stars

"You didn't 'come into' this world.  You came out of it like a wave from an ocean.  You are not a stranger here." - Alan Watts

Many times that I have found myself on a quiet dark road I look up and am pretty much blown away.  The pure beauty of the night sky lit with billions of shiny stars and the wonder that it can inject into your creativity makes an obvious reason on why it is so much fun to lay back and take it all in.

You may have your own facets of space that astonish you.  I know I always find myself asking the question, "Is there a dead end somewhere out there where space suddenly stops?"  Then I explore the answer that there are two sides to every wall.  Although you might not be able to access the other side of a wall, there is always space occupying that side.  So the answer to the question is that there cannot be a dead end in outer space, right?  I have no idea and it seems as though astronomers ask themselves the same question.

Beneath all of these questions we can or cannot answer about outer space, it seems to me that we are missing a not-so-obvious point of all of this:  When you look up at the sky and stare at the stars, you are looking at a reflection of yourself.  You ARE outer space.  Of course you are in outer space, but you actually ARE outer space.  You are a product of the universe and the milky way sustained by all of its elements.  You came from THAT.

The relative size of everything can sometimes trick us.  If you were to land on one of those distant stars you enjoy starring at that appears as a bright light far away and were to look back towards earth, what would you see?  Well, you would see a very similar picture compared to what you see when you are on earth starring at that same star.  The only difference is those shiny objects that decorate the sky would be rearranged, but you would once again be looking at a sky filled with stars.  Earth is inside of those stars and you came from that.  You are a product of the universe, the stars (aka the sun), outer space, the milky way and Earth.

To further explain, lets look at a little astronomy figures.  The Milky Way is a barred spiral galaxy containing 100-400 billion stars and may contain at least as many planets.  Yes, an additional 100-400 billions planets in our galaxy alone!  Thats a pretty big freaking galaxy, right?!  It definitely is even considering our nearest neighbor galaxy, Andromeda, contains around one trillion stars and just as many planets!  It does not end there though: throw in the estimated 100 billion galaxies in the observed universe and we have ourselves a party, amigo!

What I am getting at with the size of the totality of the observed universe is that when you zoom out on your perception of where we are, you can begin to see where we came from.  The same thing that you see when you look up at the night sky.

You came out of the universe in the neighborhood of its 100 billion galaxies.  So did your Mom.  So did you Dad.  And so did your friends, family, dog and that tree you like to sit under in the summer and read a book that was coincidentally made from a different tree.

That's what you are: made from those same elements that blows your mind every time you find yourself on a quiet dark road and look up at the stars.

Conversation on Compassion with Thich Nhat Hanh and James Doty at Stanford University

On October 24th, 2013, along with a good friend of mine, we attended an event at Stanford University hosted by The Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education (CCARE) that welcomed Thich Nhat Hanh.

In this sold-out event it was rare opportunity for a discussion with the Zen Master and world-renowned teacher of mediation, compassion and mindfulness who was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize by his friend Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. in 1967.

When you find the time to watch or listen to this video, I am sure you will find some valuable insight to bring a little more peace in your life (plus a couple good laughs!).

Enjoy!



Wishing you all the very best!
Namaste

A Short Story and 5 Ways it Can Change Your Life

Earlier this year my truck was stolen with my keys, wallet and laptop in it. Not to mention three pairs of boots I really liked.

Why the heck did I have that much stuff in my truck you ask?!

Well, I went for a run after locking up the truck in my old neighborhood that I lived in for five years with no issues. Once I took off someone broke into my truck and happened to find a spare key that I had laying around after fixing an ignition issue.

Ahhhhhhhh, I can see his BIG OLE smile right now as he drives off with everything I own and heads to the grocery store to stock up on food and drinks with my debit card.

Time to FREAK OUT, right?!

No.

Not this time.

Of course it was not cool at all, but I recalled something as I waited for the police. I immediately went back to a memorable short story that I have read a many times that always seems to keep me grounded.

Tales from the Tao is from the first book I ever purchased on eastern philosophy and is a collection short stories and quotes on Taoism. I credit this entire book and most specifically this story for changing the way I look at life and many situations that arise.

This story is called We Shall See:

There was an old man who had one son and one horse, both of whom he valued very highly. One day the horse ran away and his neighbors came over to console him. 'Oh what great misfortune,' they said, 'your horse is gone! How will you ever afford to get another one?'

The old man sat and smoked his pipe and only said, 'We shall see.'

Then, a few days later, the horse came back, accompanied by several wild horses, tripling his herd. Again, the neighbors visited, this time to congratulate the old man on his great luck. Again he merely sat and smoked and said, 'We shall see.'

A short time later, his son was thrown from one of the wild horses and broke his leg in several places. The neighbors all arrived, calling out, 'Ah great misfortune, your son will never walk again!' But again the old man merely sat quietly in front of his house and, between puffs oh his pipe, said, 'We shall see.'

Some time after that, the army came through the village, rounding up all the young men to press them into service and send them to the battlefront far away in the frozen north. But with his crippled leg the old man's son was left behind. Though crippled, he managed to car for his old father until his death many years later.

Here are a few reason why I think this story will help you:

1. You Already Have it All

Conditions for happiness are present this very moment. You can reduce the impact that "misfortunate" things have on you when you realize this. Odds are right now you have food in your belly, you are healthy, you are breathing clean air, you are warm and have great friends and family to turn to. This is really all you truly need for happiness.

You are going to be just fine.

2. Patience

We get so wrapped up over good and bad.  And when something slows us down (like traffic) or when something gets taken from us (like all my belongings) the natural tendency is to throw a big fit.

It seems so selfish, yet understandable.

What if you could decrease the burden that is laid on your mind and begin to find patience when things do not go your way?

There is real gold in that concept.

3. Bad Transforms Into Good

Life is a balancing act.

When something bad happens, naturally it eventually turns into something positive.

What I realized during and after my incident was that I have incredible friends and family that are there to help me when things get difficult.

That was a precious reminder that I am never alone and I am surrounded by incredible people.

The same goes for you.

4.  Do Not Stop Caring

The very first sentence of this short story is really starting to resonate with me now:

"There was an old man who had one son and one horse, both of whom he valued very highly."

Just because you do not freak out when something is lost does not mean that you do not value, love or cherish it.  It simply means that you will not get carried away and that you will be patient and mindful.

He valued both the horse and the son very highly, but yet when something happened to them both that he could not control he decided to be patient and see how everything played out.

5.  Let Go

This can be the hardest part of all, but when you take the previous four steps into account it can make it so much easier.

When we finally pass away from this life we will have to let go of everything; we take nothing with us.  So if you cannot control a situation anymore the best thing to do is to just let go and let the natural flow of life take care of the rest.

There is so much soul in that.

The Art of Eating a Sandwich and 3 Easy Steps to Happiness

Today I am tempting you with a challenge. A challenge that if done correctly will result with an increase of happiness in your life.

The first step will be to either make yourself a meal or go to your local cafe or restaurant and buy yourself something delicious to eat. For the example of this challenge, lets assume that you bought a tasty sandwich. The only difference between eating this wonderful sandwich and eating a sandwich of the past is that you are going to eat this sandwich slower than you have ever eaten a sandwich before.

I am getting hungry even thinking about how good this is going to taste.

Once you sit down with your sandwich and maybe a cup of tea, I want you to attempt the first goal of the challenge: slow down.  It's simple.

Slow your movements and pay attention to every little movement that your body makes as you prepare your table to eat. Notice your leg movements, arm movements, the blinking of your eyes, the sounds you hear with your ears and the beating of your heart.

This is harder than it sounds as we get wrapped up in our minds and are always in a hurry. When we are in a hurry we pay little attention to our body and that makes it hard to appreciate our good health.

You are now ready for second part of the challenge: breathe.

Now I would like you to pay close attention to your breathing patterns. Breathe in slowly and breathe out slowly. Continue to repeat the breathing patterns for at least three in-breaths and three out-breaths. At first this may be a little difficult to follow as your mind will want to wonder and think about other issues besides your breathing, but breathing is the foundation of our existence and we should not be too busy to pay attention to it as often as possible; it will help you become in touch with what you are doing and assist in the first challenge of slowing down.

Now integrate slowing down and breathing in to one act.

Now that you are ready I want you to slowly pick up your mouth-watering sandwich and look at it. What do you see? You may see bread, lettuce, tomatoes, onions and cheese, among other ingredients. But is this all you see? Where do these ingredients come from? How are they sustained?

Remember to move slowly and breathe.

When you look at the bread, you now see grain and seeds that make the dough along with the water, the people that helped gathered those ingredients and the people who helped bake the bread. You can now envision the process of the kitchen being built and the people who helped build it.

What about the vegetables? You can see the lettuce and tomatoes that were picked in the garden, the people who laughed during that very process and the people who packaged those vegetables and loaded them on the truck. You can now also see the delivery man who delivered them to cafe that you are eating in right now and the smile he gave when he dropped them off.

But how is this all possible?

When we think about how all of this is possible we simply need to look no further than the elements and nature of this universe. The water that flows down our rivers, in our oceans and the snow that falls on our snow-capped mountains comes from the clouds and participates in a process of recycling a life source. The water in the rivers, lakes and oceans heat up, evaporates, vaporizes and rises in the atmosphere where it condenses, travels slowly around the planet where it drops once again in the form of rain, snow or hail back in to our rivers, lakes and oceans. From there, the water leads to our homes and kitchens where it then mixed with the dough to make the bread in our sandwich.

Slowly breathe.

All of this is done within a universal effort in seemingly perpetual fashion. You should feel grateful for this.

Now back to your sandwich: time to eat! As you take your first bite chew your food and absorb all the wonderful flavors and savor the moment. This is essentially what the entire purpose of the challenge is: savoring the moment. Now try and continue to eat you sandwich with this same type of mentality with every single bite.

As you ponder this notion I would like you to consider the benefits of living your entire life the same way you eat this sandwich. It would be an extremely difficult task to continue at every moment, but even if you integrate it into your lifestyle as regular as possible you will find greater happiness and become more optimistic as well as having a better understanding of your surroundings. When beginning to understand the entirety of what must come together for this sustained life, you will begin to see how many different factors come together and may find more appreciation for the little things once you slow down and breathe.

By following these three simple steps:

1. Slowing down - by relaxing and being mindful of your body in its entirety and how it functions
2. Breathing - concentrating for as long as possible and regularly on your in-breath and out-breath
3. Repeating steps 1 and 2! - by simply following step one and step two and repeating them as much as possible you can begin to savor what is happening in the present moment, which is the only time in which life is available.

One of my favorite Zen philosophers, Alan Watts said that Zen is as simple as, "When you are hungry: eat.  When you are tired: sleep."  We are so often distracted by other things that we forget to become present and enjoy the things that we are doing in its entirety and feeling the present moment.

At least for this sandwich, we won't.

Wishing you the best.

Book Review: The Dharma Bums by Jack Kerouac

With a unique style of writing, a variety of choice words and some hilarious and interesting scenarios leaves a highly entertaining and historic story in its wake. Jack Kerouac is a writer that I recently heard of because a band that I thoroughly enjoy, Railroad Earth, was named after a short story written by Kerouac and brought to my attention by a vendor in Pike Place Market in Seattle as I wondered aimlessly with a Railroad Earth t-shirt on.

Essentially, The Dharma Bums, written in the 1950's, which closely resembles the life of Kerouac starts in San Francisco with a group of young men (who famously in real life become known as the beat generation) passing around a jug of wine performing their poetry to crowds at a bar when Ray (Kerouac) began to discuss with his best friend, Japhy, about Japhy's friend, Warren Coughlin:

...Warren Coughlin a hundred and eighty pounds of poet meat, who was advertised by Japhy (privately in my ear) as being more than meets the eye.

"Who is he?"

"He's my friend from up in Oregon, we've known each other for a long time. At first you think he's slow and stupid but actually he's a shining diamond. You'll see. Don't let him cut you to ribbons. He'll make the top of your head fly away, boy, with a few choice words."

These types of clever interactions between Ray and possibly my favorite character I have encountered through books or television, Japhy, are bound to keep the reader entertained.

The book continues with drunk nights amongst friends shouting haiku's in the hills of northern California overlooking the Pacific ocean, multiple cross-country trips traveling via hitch-hiking and train hoping, mountain climbing and finally ending in the secluded mountains of Washington State.

Kerouac seems to constantly be highlighting how living simply is a virtue:

"...he means that's the attitude for the Bard, the Zen Lunacy bard of old desert paths, see the whole thing is a world full of rucksack wanderers, Dharma Bums refusing to subscribe to the general demand that they consume production and therefore have to work for the privilege of consuming, all that crap they didn't really want anyway such as refrigerators, TV sets, cars, at least new fancy cars, certain hair oils and deodorants and general junk you finally always see a week later in the garbage anyway, all of them imprisoned in a system or work, produce, consume, work, produce, consume, I see a vision of a great rucksack revolution thousands or even millions of young Americans wandering around with rucksacks, going up to the mountains to pray, making children laugh and old men glad, making young girls happy and old girls happier..."

Kerouac later describes the cabin of Japhy outside of San Francisco on a large property with multiple cabins and also the setting of some interesting parties:

On the door was a board with Chinese inscriptions on it; I never did find out what it meant: probably "Mara stay away" (Mara the Tempter). Inside I saw the beautiful simplicity of Japhy's way of living, neat, sensible, strangely rich without a cent having been spent on the decoration. Old clay jars exploded with bouquets of flowers picked around the yard. His books were neatly stacked in orange crates. The floor was covered with inexpensive straw mats. The walls, as I say, were lined with burlap, which is one of the finest wallpapers you can have, very attractive and nice smelling. Japhy's mat was covered with a thin mattress and a Paisley shawl over that, and at the head of it, neatly rolled for the day, his sleeping bag. Behind burlap drapes in a closet his rucksack and junk put away from sight. From the burlap wall hung beautiful prints of old Chinese silk painting and maps of Marin County and northwest Washington and various poems he'd written and just stuck on a wall for anybody to read.

I look forward to reading more from Kerouac and hope and expect to find stories that provide insight in alternate ways of living compared to the popular way of consumption. The prompting of the self debate on when is enough actually enough is a topic that consumes my thought quite often and I believe that you can find a balance of purchasing quality products that you actually need and cutting the unnecessary junk that fills our garages and leads to countless hours of unnecessary stress at work. We truly can live rich like Japhy, by putting more thought into what surrounds us, and actually spend close to nothing and fall asleep with a relaxed smile.

Kerouac also brings to light the notion of being who you truly are. Collective thought in society can be quite imposing at times and living a life that causes constant internal conflict due to conforming to social norms can be burdensome and stressful. Kerouac asks us to embrace who we are, dress like it, act like it, live life to the fullest and give a little thought to the decisions we make and try doing so without unnecessary attachments.

The beautiful part of being alive is being ourselves.

Today, my friends, was A Positive Day.

Stephen DeMent